Think Kink

Slip out of your comforters and conditioning. Peel off the skin of shame and intimidate your inhibitions. Get the real you out, set the table for love, games and offences, and instead of fighting, sex it out. Here’s our recommended list of ‘I‘d-like-to-do-that-with-you’, to celebrate a foxy Valentine. The only rule is: Do not play by the rules.

Learn the good old art of giving a sensuous massage.

When your fingers caress a well oiled skin, you will know. Map his/her body, keep the pressure slow and deliberate, let your partner’s reactions tell you where to add more pressure or linger a bit longer. Massage the erogenous zones (common zones: neck, back of knees, fore arms, elbow cavity, inner thigh). Use warm fragrant oils or his/her favourite body lotion. A massage will make the body less stiff, breaking down emotional or bodily inhibitions.

BDSM: Bondage, Dominance, Submission and Masochism.

Bondage, the most favoured kind of kinky sex, always gets the blood pumping. Silk scarves, neck ties, fur or steel hand cuffs, rope bondage (where a rope is tied around the partner’s body or certain body parts. The pressure of constriction depends on how much your ‘misbehaved’ lover will enjoy). Blind folds add to the element of surprise and you could authoritatively make your partner submit to your whims. Feathers add to sweet torture; provided you use a soft and smooth one, the peacock feather does a good job!

Some toys are only for adults.

Scout out for sex toys (in store or online) and you’d have some joys waiting to be discovered. Seriously, surprise your partner. Use a lubricant before you experiment!

Watch and learn.

Enact a scene from your lover’s favourite movie, dress up and act the part. Lessons in belly dancing, pole dancing, and a make-shift pole in the bedroom would blow his/her mind off. Or simply put on your sexiest lingerie and perform a Demi Moore strip dance. Most gyms and dance classes have these on their list, put your skills to use and watch your partner’s throat go dry.

Fulfil Fetishes

join the mile high club (make out on your way 1000 feet above ground), public places (the thrill of being caught or seen is a big titilator), making out in cars, foot fetish, shoe fetish (sexy stilettos), glasses, suspenders, CMNF (clothed male, naked female) or CFNM (clothed female, naked male).

Playful encounters

Sex Games like benefit card games (making your partner apologise with unconventional sexual favours), spider man (make sure you yell, go spidey go), blinding the marlin or Alabama fire hose. Role playing like ‘let’s play doctor’, provocative nurse, teacher-student, cheer leaders or our very own Savita bhabhi.

Cook up a storm

Cooking a meal is an exercise that always brings two people together. But where's the spice in this besides the ones that are going into the food? Well, there will be if you do it wearing minimal clothes, that is, if you want to wear any at all. Hit the gym now and wish your sugar bon appetite in style.

Lights, Camera, action

Filming you and your partner while making love and then watching the re-runs together can be a great way of having fun, getting aroused or using it as study material. However, be a million percent sure of your partner’s intention and do not allow it unless you have full consent to the act. Dirty talk over phone, chat, video conferencing (watching the partner pleasure him/herself), could be one of foreplay acts or one of the ways to sustain a long distance relationship.

Oral deal

Use your mouth – enhance your oral skills by doing to your partner what you’d like done to yourself. Find out your lover’s erogenous zones make use of ice cubes, nutella, chocolate, pop crackers, mint or soda, use your imagination. We suggest you leave the Indian spices out.

Have a good laugh

Sex is neither sinful nor serious business, when spluttered with joy and fun, it becomes more easy and comfortable. The lighter the mood, the more open you are going to be at risking new things and breaking routines.